Candice & Sylvia pick up where they left off last week, reflecting on what twenty years of friendship has taught them about love, especially during hard times. Inspired by the wisdom of bell hooks, they explore an expansive definition of love, and Sylvia speaks about where her capacity to offer compassionate support may have originated. She speaks transparently, and somewhat tearfully, about how the knowledge that we are loved can carry us through life’s darkest moments. Together, Sylvia and Candice get fired up about how love is often ‘sold’ to us as a commodity and the pressures to produce/perform in a capitalist society. And the episode wraps up with a conversation on menopause filled with all sorts of hilarity and laughter. Headaches and hotflashes aside, if you sometimes grow tired of tempering yourself to squeeze yourself inside of other people’s expectations, this episode may be for you.
CHAPTERS
1:28 — bell hooks defines love
12:36 — Friendship can rewrite history
18:50— Embracing the darkness as authenticity
24:33 — Love is not for sale
35:19 — Self-love & sobriety
41:47 — Productivity, Presentation, & an alternative
44:13 — Menopause; all the fire we never spent
50:07 — Taking the label
February 16, 2022
Referenced in this episode:
- All About Love: New Visions, by bell hook
